First position - here and now
The first thing you need to do, is to
sit down and feel the emotion. Recognize what you feel and
put it in words: I realize that I feel... Realize
everything you feel in detail and why you feel that way. Say it in many ways, and you will
discover that some ways hit better than others. Be honest
with yourself and do this thoroughly with everything you
feel. You see, when you sit down to do this, more emotions
might show up. If they are painful, none of them serve you
They come to the surface when you give yourself time, when
allow yourself to feel..
As you acknowledge your emotions
you might start getting pictures from memories in your mind.
You also might start seeing how this emotional pattern that you are
unveiling is creating situations in your life, by seeing a
row of memories. We call them parallels.
Suddenly you might remember a painful
childhood memory. You see and know immediately that you have
come to the roots of these particular feelings, the oldest wound that needs to be healed
first of all.
Go there by your imagination, be present in the memory and be fully the one you were
then. Then the feelings come flowing as soon as you start
realizing. Your soul is actually there, because it is the
If you don't remember any
specific situation, but still have those feelings, you can use a
pendulum for help. Bring your feelings from the present
along and ask your higher consciousness for help. Use your
intuition. Read more on the button, "Finding the memory".
Second position, accepting
that it happened, realizing what you feel.
Stay in the memory and admit all your
feelings by saying it out loud, if you can. That works the
best. (You need to be alone whan releaseing.) The more thoroughly the better. Are there
things you need to realize that you have not been willing to
because it was to painful? Be honest with yourself!
The basic is to say: I realize
that I feel... and then all the feelings. This is the
sentence we recommend to use. It is NOT enough, just to feel
it or to list them. You have to use the word realize, admit or a similar words that
works for you for each of the emotion coming up.
Remember to find WHY for bee that way. Say things in different ways until you hit
the feeling fully and repeat the sentence until the feeling fades. (If it
is very painful so that you cannot stop crying, please take
a break and let your energy system work for you a while. You
calm down and when you go back to the situation, you will
feel that the pain has let go.
Many of the feelings might be
rather complicated, so take your time. You will realize that
the feelings and the memory may be of a different kind that
what you thought at first. The sentences may get
2 and 3 links, for example: I realize that I feel a deep
grief because I feel unworthy. Or, I realize that I feel
ashamed that I am not able to take responsibility. All
variations of feelings are hidden inside of us! You need to
find your combinations and unlock the codes of your
Third position, comforting the
inner child (or adult)
When you feel that you have
emptied yourself, feeling calmer, move into this position:
Be the one you are today and see yourself from outside, as
if you are in the picture. Sit down with yourself. Take
yourself on the lap or hold your arms around you. Empty the
space by removing the people involved and create a place to
sit down if there isn't one already. You are the master of
your life! This works for real. Be then and there fully.
Say to yourself: I love you
just the way you are. I love you, even if you feel sad.... I
love you even if you feel that you aren't good enough, even
if you want to die... and so on.
(say the things you really felt).
Then take time to say all the loving words you can to your
soul. Your soul need to hear. Imagine you whisper in the ear
of the person you were then:
"I am proud of you, it is OK. Your nature is pure love. You just had
to try out something else. You are made of love, my
wonderful ....." use your own name!
If you haven't got in contact
with your inner child's emotions before, you do it now.
If you in this posision start crying, you need to go back to
the first position to admitting/realizing all the feelings coming up.
Very often, when we see ourselves from outside, our
awakened and we really get to the depth of ourselves. We
warmly recommend to do this. This is what really heals your
Fourth position, forgiveness
When you feel that you have accepted
all the feelings and you feel calmer, there might still be a
feeling of unease...? You always need to forgive or/and ask
In most cases, the very first you need is to forgive
yourself. Our culture didn't teach us to take care of
ourselves. Feel and think through. Be in the memory whilst
doing all the forgiving. At the same time, bring your mature
you, reasonable you. This is necessary.
Bring in the persons in your story one
by one and say out loud what you feel, without blaming. (If
you blame, you need to go back to accept your need to blame
and forgive yourself. Is there still guilt in you that make
you do that?) Tell them that you forgive them because you
see that they carry their own baggage from their own
childhood and that you understand that their wounds made
them do what they did.